Can Children ‘Just Say No’ When It Comes to Sharing?

From a young age, kids are taught one simple rule: sharing is caring. So what happens when this unspoken rule of childhood is broken, by a parent no less? The answer? Utter outrage along with victory shouts. If you’re feeling lost in translation, take into account the experience of  Facebook user Alanya Kolberg who took to her Facebook page to share a recent experience from the park.

Though children for decades have been taught to share their toys with other kids when it comes to playground etiquette, Kolberg took a different stance. When she saw that her son, Carson, was getting bombarded by children begging him to share the toys he had brought with them, she simply told him he didn’t have to. Why? Because he didn’t want to, and the toys were his and his alone.

Her story begins like this: ‘“You can tell them no, Carson,” I said. “Just say no. You don’t have to say anything else.”‘

This turn of events came as an apparent shock to the other children and their parents, who then proceeded to roll their eyes and give judging glares at Kolberg and her son. When she unleashed her story on Facebook, she recounted the real purpose of parenting: to teach children how to be adults.

If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No! . . . The goal is to teach our children how to function as adults. While I do know some adults who clearly never learned how to share as children, I know far more who don’t know how to say no to people, or how to set boundaries, or how to practice self-care,” Koldberg said on her Facebook post

While some showed their personal opinions from a parenting perspective, others shared theirs from a more professional standpoint, such as that of a teacher. In the comments, Facebook user Latisha Dejean wrote about how and why she agrees with Koldberg’s stance, saying,

However, not everyone was in agreement with Koldberg’s opinion and message that she had shared, and they weren’t shy to let it be known. Though not many were showcasing downright disgust, they had opinions that they felt needed to be known.

While every parent is entitled to raise their children in the manner that they wish, do you think there are unspoken guidelines for children in society?

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